”Here we say goodbye to a difficult year, with many trials, losses and crises. But at the same time, with many opportunities for something new and something different. After all, aren't you doing this in a crisis? You (re) adapt to survive, you try and ... whatever happens. Many are out of your control, from one point onwards.

So i say goodbye, to a year that showed me how many (but how many) things are out of my control. And yours. And all of us (maybe).

I feel a little weird when I say that for me personally it was not exactly a disastrous year. I was lucky to have in good health, all my loved onesThe most important thing!

I was lucky enough to experience huge, abrupt changes that pushed me to take risks, to move fast and finally find something closer to me, than what I already had.

I have been fortunate to enjoy the fruits of my systematic effort in recent years. The pleasures came to me and I did not know how to manage it when almost everything around me has been called difficulties.

I was always optimistic. To the point that it was too much (as a psychologist I could use many words for excessive optimism but I would prefer not to do it). But if I had to choose between being overly optimistic and overly pessimistic, I would choose the former. It is enjoyable for those around them but difficult for anyone who does it. Sounds familiar.

But you better not do it - there is nothing good with overdoing it, after all. But do what your true self tells you, the most sincere and genuine voice within you. The result can only justify you. This is just one of the many things that came to me in 2020 and I could not help but feel grateful for the new relationship I had with myself. I wish I could have something similar every next year ..

I do not know if you believe in luck or if you bet that all of the above have a logical explanation. They may have. It's just that in 2020 I learned to mute this inner and so harsh judge a little more often and to listen more to my ombudsman.

I do not know what to wish for the new year. It brought me so much in 2020, that I wanted something very simple from our new year: not to take from me anything I already have…”

What about you?